What’s the chance…
Many of us hesitate to ask for help.
We worry about bothering others, hearing no, or feeling like we’re asking for too much. So we stay silent, struggle through, or phrase our requests in a way that feels heavy or apologetic.
But there’s a surprisingly simple shift that can change everything.
Instead of asking from a place of need or pressure, try asking from a place of possibility.
“What’s the chance?”
It’s a small phrase, but it does something powerful: it gives the other person room. It hands them choice, agency, and even a little spark of curiosity. You’re not demanding. You’re inviting.
“What’s the chance you could help me with this?”
“What’s the chance there’s a 10% discount?”
“What’s the chance we could wrap up by noon?”
When someone says no, you can keep it light – maybe even playful – depending on the moment. Sometimes humor opens doors that seriousness keeps closed. Sometimes people surprise you. Sometimes they hand you the spoon you forgot, point you to a restroom, bend a rule, or simply try.
And sometimes the answer really is no – and that’s okay too.
The point isn’t to manipulate or push. It’s to stop assuming help isn’t available. To stop deciding for others what they’re willing or able to do.
Asking this way removes pressure – for you and for them. It turns help into a shared moment rather than an awkward transaction.
So next time you need something, big or small, try it.
Ask gently. Ask playfully. Ask with openness.
What’s the chance?
You might be surprised by the answer.
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