More Than a Romantic Script
I listened to an episode today about the power of being single – and even though I’m in a relationship, it felt deeply relevant.
We often treat being single as a waiting room. A temporary state. A sign that something is missing. But what if it’s not a gap to fill – but a space to grow?
Being single is not a failure. It’s an opportunity; an invitation.
An invitation to become comfortable in your own company. To understand your values. To notice your patterns. To heal past wounds instead of carrying them into the next relationship. So often, we rush into relationships hoping someone else will make us feel complete. But that mindset quietly erodes our self-worth and creates pressure – on us and on them.
One idea from the episode really stayed with me: we are not two halves searching for completion. We are two whole people choosing to walk and build together.
That shift changes everything.
When you feel whole on your own, you don’t look for someone to rescue you from loneliness. You look for alignment. Shared values. Shared direction. A person who feels good beside you – not because they fill a void, but because they expand your life.
The romantic 50–50 idea sounds beautiful in movies. “I don’t care what life I live, as long as it’s with you.” But in real life, once this initial spark starts fading, clarity and alignment take the spotlight. Knowing who you are and what you want matters.
Whether you’re single or in a relationship, this question is worth holding gently:
Are you acting from a place of wholeness – or from a place of need?
Love that grows between two whole people doesn’t limit who you are.
It does not complete you; it complements you.
It allows you both to expand and grow, while being true to yourself.
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